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What Is Over-Serving?
The contagion of inauthenticity ends when we stop confusing self-sacrifice with love and start honoring the quiet truth inside us. The truth that says: You matter, too. Continue reading
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Hand on heart sunday
Be still and confident of the ground upon which you stand. By Louise Sutherland-Hoyt Crumple up your resume. Fold your degrees.They’re not your essence. They’re not your worth. You are not just a string of credentials. You are not merely a job title lining your résumé. You are not defined by the accolades you’ve accumulated.… Continue reading
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Have You Said This?
7 Reasons Why Saying You Just Don’t Get It Is Intellectual Arrogance in Disguise By Louise Sutherland-Hoyt There’s a special kind of smugness wrapped in these five little words: You just don’t get it. I’ll readily admit that I’ve tossed this out there in times when I was all out of ammo and needed a… Continue reading
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Stand Fast in Grace
I used to think being authentic meant being approachable—saying yes more often, meeting people halfway, trying not to ruffle feathers. But over time, I noticed something was off. Every compromise left me feeling just a little less like myself. Every deal I made to “keep the peace” came at a cost: guilt, shame, second-guessing. Then… Continue reading
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Freedom Is:
Being Okay With Yourself While the Rest of the World Thinks You’re an Asshole You don’t have to be an old fart to fetch your own freedom. You just need the guts to stop fishing for validation, explaining, and justifying. I know this is old news and the message is repetitive, yet I am still… Continue reading
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What Is Over-Serving?
The contagion of inauthenticity ends when we stop confusing self-sacrifice with love and start honoring the quiet truth inside us. The truth that says: You matter, too. Continue reading
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Crossing into the Light:
Tending the Soul Through Soulstice and Emergence (emphasis on Soul) June leans toward the light like a sunflower turning to the sun—slowly, instinctively, without asking for permission. Even at my age, I still find myself leaning too. Not into busyness or brightness for its own sake, but into something quieter, stirring, sacred.This month, I’m tending… Continue reading
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Embrace the Grit: 5 Truths on Posttraumatic Growth
Fake it till you Make It:Five Gritty Truths About Post-traumatic Becoming By Louise Sutherland-Hoyt, M. Ed., CCMHC , NCCLicensed Clinical Professional Counselor “Fake it till you make it” gets a bad rap—dismissed as fluff or fraudulence. But for those of us who’ve walked through the wreckage, it’s not a mask. It’s a method for those… Continue reading
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‘The Let Them Theory’:
Why Let Them is Key in Posttraumatic Growth Mel Robbins’ The Let Them Theory disrupts conventional ideas about interpersonal relationships. It provides a bold framework that cuts through the noise. This is especially helpful for those grappling with the aftermath of narcissistic abuse. Grounded in ancient wisdom, it’s a must-read for anyone hungry for posttraumatic… Continue reading
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Whose Child Shall I Be?
We are in the habit of saying that it was not in our power to choose the parents who were allotted to us. But we can choose whose children we would like to be. Seneca As I reflect on this Mother’s Day weekend, I find myself not holding flowers in remembrance. Instead, I am reconciling… Continue reading